Children of Divorce

A divorce decree cannot and does not end your responsibility as a parent. Parents are forever. Both parents should make every attempt to play a vital part in the lives of their children, and allow one another to do so. Children need the ongoing affection, interest and concern of their parents. Children must feel that they have two parents who love them, even though they could not live happily with each other.

We hope that the information in this pamphlet will help you to help your children cope with your marriage dissolution with a minimum of hurt. The practical guidelines that follow are based on the many years of experience of judges, divorce attorneys and the counseling professions. You should be working to minimize the damage to your children in a number of ways. Here’s how:

Guidelines for Parents

If you think getting a divorce will mean you are fully and permanently rid of your spouse, think again! As long as you have minor children, you will always need to have a speaking relationship with their other parent. In that respect, the marriage will never be fully over, at least as long as the children are minors.
Remember the best parts of your marriage. Share them with your children and use them constructively.
Assure and re-assure your children that they are not to blame for the breakup and that they are not being rejected or abandoned. Children, especially young ones, often mistakenly feel that they have done something wrong and believe that the problems in the family are the result of their own misdeeds. Small children may feel that some action or secret wish of theirs has caused the trouble between their parents.
Continuing anger or bitterness toward your former partner can injure your children almost as much as the dissolution of the marriage. The feelings you show are as important as the words you use.
Refrain from voicing criticism of the other parent. It is difficult but absolutely necessary. For a child’s healthy development, discipline, happiness and mental well being, it is necessary to respect both parents.
Children have a desperate, fundamental need to see both parents as sources of moral authority, capability, and reliable strength. Trying to destroy the child’s belief in the other parent deprives that child of one of the essential elements of his or her well being.
Seeing a parent degraded and humiliated is deeply disturbing to a child. It inflicts long lasting damage in ways that a child — even an older one — does not fully understand.
Don’t make your child choose between you and the other parent. Children who take sides in the battles between their separated parents invariably come to regret it. It may take years, and may happen only in the late teens or in young adulthood, but the child almost always endures agonies of guilt. Often the child turns bitterly against the parent who allowed this to happen.
Placing a child in the middle, and trying to make him or her feel guilt for being fair, decent or affectionate toward the other parent, seriously damages the child’s psychological well-being and character. It is a cruel way to take advantage of one’s own child.
Giving a child the false belief that the child is the decision maker in matters of custody or visitation is not only unfair and cruel to the child, but a serious misrepresentation of the law. Judges will try to take the true wishes of an older child into account as one factor, but the only decision maker is the judge.
Try not to upset a child’s routine too abruptly. Children need a sense of continuity. It is disturbing to them if they must cope with too many changes at once. Maintain consistent parenting. Separated parents who may be giving the same children mixed signals about rules of behavior should communicate frankly and directly with each other on disciplinary issues in order to provide consistent rules and limits for the children.
Dissolution of a marriage often leads to financial pressures on both parents. When there is a financial crisis, the parents’ first impulse may be to keep the children from realizing it. Often, they would rather make sacrifices themselves than ask the children to do so. The atmosphere is healthier when there is frankness and when children are expected to help. Blaming the opposing party for this may be hard to resist, but it will probably land you back in court.
Marriage breakdown is always hard on the children. They may not always show their distress or realize at first what this will mean to them. Parents should be direct and simple in telling children what is happening and why, and in a way a child can understand and digest. This will vary with the circumstances and with each child’s age and comprehension. It seldom works to try to hush things up and make children feel they must not talk or think about what they sense is going on. Unpleasant events need explanation, which should be brief, prompt, direct and honest.
The story of your marriage dissolution may have to be retold after the child gets older and considers life more maturely. Though it would be unwise to present either party as a martyr, it would also be wrong to pretend there are no regrets and that dissolution is so common it hardly matters.
The guilt parents feel about the marriage breakdown may interfere in their disciplining the children. A child needs consistent control and direction. Over-permissiveness, or indecisive parents who leave children at the mercy of every passing whim and impulse, interfere with the children’s healthy development. Children need and want to know what is expected of them. Children feel more secure when limits are set. They are confused when grown-ups seem to permit behavior that they themselves know to be wrong and are trying to outgrow. Children need leadership and sometimes authority. Parents must be ready to say “No” when necessary.

Visitation Guidelines

Parental behavior has a great influence on the emotional adjustment of their children. This is equally true after the dissolution of a marriage. The following visitation guidelines have been found to be helpful to children in managing visitation:

Visitation should be pleasant not only for the children, but for both parents. Visitation should help your children maintain a good relationship with their other parent.
The visits should not be limited to the children’s home. Unless otherwise decreed in unusual cases, visitation means the visiting parent has the children visit in his or her home overnight. It may include trips and outings elsewhere.
The question is often asked, “Should the noncustodial parent take the children to the girl/boy friend’s house?” Visitation is a time for the parent and the children to be with each other; to maintain strong relationships. Having other people participate may dilute the parent–child experience during visitation. Also, it may appear to the children that the visiting parent does not have time for them, and does not care enough to give them undivided attention during a visitation.
Keep your visitation schedule and inform the other parent when you cannot keep an appointment. Missing a visit without notifying the other parent may be construed by the child as rejection. Dependability and punctuality in visitation are duties owed to the child and the custodial parent, and part of the rights that the custodial parent should expect to have respected. Furthermore, last-minute schedule changes for emergencies should be cheerfully agreed to and facilitated. Schedule adjustments that are agreed to by both parents well in advance for their convenience or the children’s surely make sense. But too many missed visits and schedule changes, for one parent’s convenience or unpredictable whims, will lead to bitterness and conflict that neither parent needs and that will ultimately hurt the children.
Both parents may need to adjust the visitation schedule from time to time according to the children’s ages, health and interests.
Frequently noncustodial or visiting parents ask, “Why should I visit?” thinking that continued exposure to the “losing” parent inconveniences or saddens the children. “I’m no longer needed; the custodial parent has the home and the children.” This is understandable, but wrong. The visit is one of the few times that the visiting parent has personal contact with the children, and for that reason, it should be a meaningful one for both the visiting parent and the children. Even though the parents have not been able to get along, the children still need both parents if they are to grow up in a normal way.
Often parents question where they should take the children on the visits and what should be planned for them in the way of amusement, particularly if they are young children. Activities may add to the pleasure of a visit, but most important of all is the visiting parent’s involvement with the children. Giving of yourself is more important than whatever material things you may give to your children. A dizzying round of too many fun activities will probably not be appreciated by the child. A massive assault of special treats and gift-giving will probably be resented by the other parent. Also, it will surely give the children the wrong idea about life and what parents are for.
The visit should not be used to check on the other parent. The children should not be pumped for this kind of information. They should not be used as little spies. In such a climate, the children’s perception is that the parents hate each other and these children will suffer. In their minds, if they do anything to please one parent, they may invite outright rejection by their other parent. They have already lost one parent in their minds and are fearful of losing the other. For this reason, parents should always show respect for each other.
Children may be left with many problems following visits, but most of them are the natural result of a highly unnatural and uncomfortable situation. Both parents should make every effort to discuss and to agree on ways to deal with these problems.
Both parents should strive to agree on matters pertaining to the children, especially discipline, so that one parent is not undermining the other parent’s efforts.
If You Need Help

If you decide that dissolution of the marriage is the only answer to your marital differences and that help to restore the marriage is no longer what you want or need, you may still need professional help to get on the right road. Advice from well-meaning friends and relatives, in many cases, further aggravates the situation. Friends or relatives can seldom be objective.

Professional counseling can assist you in dealing with your problems and your children’s problems at the same time. A psychologist or other counselor, with professional academic training, can offer insights drawn from the experience of counseling hundreds of parents with problems much like yours who have gone through this process before you.

If communicating with your spouse is desirable for your child’s sake, but difficult because of your marital differences, then mediation may provide the opportunity for parents to talk constructively. A certified mediator is trained to facilitate communication and assist parents to design their own co-parenting arrangements.

If you feel you need the assistance of an attorney but are concerned it will lead to litigation in Court, then Collaborative Family Law may provide the environment to negotiate your differences without the threat of litigation. In Collaborative Family Law each client retains a lawyer trained in Collaborative Law. The parties agree to work toward settlement without threatening to go to court, to share all needed information, and that neither lawyer can be involved if the parties fail to settle and go to court.

Help is available. Seek your attorney’s assistance in locating the proper professional to help you with your parenting issues.

This pamphlet has been revised and reprinted by the Family Law Section of the Virginia State Bar from a handout obtained many years ago from Judge Jack T. Ryburn of the Los Angeles, California, Supreme Court. It has evolved in several versions over succeeding years.

For more information see the VSB Spare the Child video.

Children’s Bill of Rights

Marriage is a contract between adults, and when it ends, the matter is
between the adults also. Yet no parental action has a greater impact on children. Children love their parents and want to be with them. Even in times of great stress, parents have a responsibility to conduct their legal affairs in a manner that will protect their children from adult conflicts.

At a minimum, children are entitled to the following Bill of Rights:

Neither parent shall deny the child reasonable use of the telephone to place and receive calls with the other parent and relatives.

Neither parent shall speak or write derogatory remarks about the other parent to the child, or engage in abusive, coarse or foul language, which can be overheard by the child whether or not the language involves the other parent.

Neither parent shall permit the children to overhear arguments, negotiations or other substantive discussions about legal or business dealings between the parents.

Neither parent shall physically or psychologically attempt to pressure, attempt to influence, pressure or influence the children concerning the personal opinion or position of the child concerning legal proceedings between the parents.

Each parent will permit the child to display photographs of the other parent or both parents in the child’s room.

Neither parent shall communicate moral judgments about the other parent to the child concerning the other parent’s choice of values, lifestyle, choice of friends, successes or failures in life (career, financial, relational) or residential choice.

The parents will acknowledge to the child that the child has two homes although the child may spend more time at one home than the other.

The parents shall cooperate to the greatest extent practicable in sharing time with the child.

Each parent will permit the child to retain, and allow easy access to, correspondence, greeting cards, and other written materials received from the other parent.

Each parent will respect the physical integrity of items possessed by the child which depict the other parent or remind the child of the other parent.

Neither parent will trivialize, or deny the existence of the other parent to the child.

Neither parent will interrogate the child about the other parent nor will either parent discourage comments by the child about the other parent.

Neither parent will intercept, “lose”, derail, “forget” or otherwise interfere with communications to the child from the other parent.

Neither parent will refuse to acknowledge that the child can have or should have good experiences with the other parent.

Neither parent will directly or indirectly attack or criticize to the child the extended family of the other parent, the other parent’s career, the living and travel arrangements of the other parent, or lawful activities of the other parent or associates of the other parent.

Neither parent will use the child as a “middleman” by using the child to communicate with the other parent on inappropriate topics.

Neither parent will undermine the other parent in the eyes of the child by engaging in the “circumstantial syndrome” which is done by manipulating, changing, or rearranging facts.

Neither parent will create for, or exaggerate to, the child differences between the parents.

Neither parent will say and do things with an eye to gaining the child as an “ally” against the other parent.

Neither parent will encourage or instruct the child to be disobedient to the other parent, stepparents, or relatives.

Neither parent will reward the child to act negatively toward the other parent.

Neither parent will try to make the child believe he or she loves the child more than the other parent, by, for example, saying that he or she loves the child more than the other parent or over-informing the child on adult topics or overindulging the child.

Neither parent will discuss child support issues with the child.

Neither parent will engage in judgmental, opinionated or negative commentary, physical inspections or interrogations once the child arrives from his/her other home.

Neither parent will “rewrite” or “re-script” facts which the child originally knows to be different.

Neither parent will punish the child physically or threaten such punishment in order to influence the child to adopt the parent’s negative program, if any, against the other parent.

Neither parent will permit the child to be transported by a person who is intoxicated due to consumption of alcohol or illegal drugs.

Neither parent will smoke tobacco materials inside structures or vehicles occupied at the time by the child.

Each parent will permit the child to carry gifts, toys, clothing, and other items belonging to the child with him or her to the residence of the other parent or relatives or permit the child to take gifts, toys, clothing, and other items belonging to the child back to the residence of the other parent, as the case may be, to facilitate the child having with him or her objects, important to the child. The gifts, toys, clothing and other items belonging to the child referred to here mean items which are reasonable transportable and does not include pets (which the parents agree are impractical to move about).

My little angel- Lexi

Letters to Greg and his attorney

This is where all the requests to see my children will be categorized. According to the  VA law, Greg Mayo is working in a conspiracy to prevent our children from visiting with me. I am their Mother and this is my peaceful protest. I am willing to share all of the information so my children will understand under no circumstances have I ever given up on them.

I will also catalogue all documentation to date. Let’s be clear about all the facts please!!!

Irresponsible parenting. Grant read the Bold sections please

Virginia Child Custody

Child Custody in Virginia

Based on the Code of Virginia, Title 20, Section 20-124.2 and 124.3, when the court determines custody, it assures the child of frequent and continuing contact with both parents when appropriate and in the best interests of the child.

The court determines the primary care of the child based on Virginia code section 20-124.3. The family court, which has jurisdiction over child custody cases, considers all relevant facts surrounding the relationship between the parents and the child. The judge looks at the fitness, financial resources and residence of both parents, and the age, health, gender and preference of the child.

The court’s primary purpose in child custody suits is to foster frequent and continuous contact between the child and both parents. Toward that end, the court awards joint custody or sole custody.

Virginia child custody laws strongly support the welfare of the child. Divorcing parents are encouraged to amicably work out the details of their parenting plan. Agreement between parents reflects their willingness and ability to take care of their child’s needs while living separately. If dispute over the parenting agreement occurs, the court steps in to resolve issues concerning child support, custody, and visitation rights.

Virginia Child Custody Laws

Virginia child custody laws require consideration of:

• the child’s wishes or preferences as to custody, provided that he or she is mature enough to make such claims;
• the child’s age and mental health, in order for the court to assess his/her developmental needs;
• the parents’ ages and mental conditions;
• the nature of the parent-child relationship;
• the parents’ familiarity of the child’s need and ability to provide for those needs;
• the parents’ future parental role in child rearing;
• the parents’ willingness and ability to allow and maintain a close and continuing relationship between the child and the other parent;
• the parents’ willingness and ability to work together to resolve disputes;
• any history of domestic violence, child abuse, negligence, or substance abuse; and
• and any other factor that directly affects the welfare of the child.

Best Interests of the Child

As always, the court shall keep in mind that the best interests of the child should be on top, and the primary determining factor. Factors considered in deciding the best interest include:

• the age, physical, and mental condition of the child;
• the age, physical, and mental condition of each parent;
• any history of family abuse;
• the child’s wishes, if the child is of a sufficient age and understanding to express a preference (generally age 12 or older);
• the role each parent plays in the child’s upbringing;
• the child’s needs, including the child’s relationship with his/her parents, siblings, and extended family members;
• each parent’s willingness to foster a close relationship between the child and the other parent; and
• additional important factors determined by the court.

Custody means the physical and legal control and responsibility for a minor child. Physical custody means that the child will live in the residence of the custodial parent. Legal custody means that the custodial parent has the right and responsibility to care for the child, including making decisions regarding the child’s educational and medical needs.

Virginia courts have jurisdiction over custody cases if the child lives in the state and at least one parent lives or works in the state, or if the child resided in Virginia within the last 6 months and was only removed from the state because a custodial parent moved out of the state.

Relocation

In Virginia, a parent who is intending to relocate must give the court and the other parent 30 days notice. The relocating parent must also list the parent’s new address, unless the court decides that it is unnecessary.

A parent who wishes to modify the existing custody must show that there was a significant change in circumstances necessary to force a change before the same court that determined the original custody placement. In Virginia, custody agreements are very rarely modified. Virginia code section 20-108 outline grounds for custody modifications. Intentional withholding of a child without just cause may lead to a custody change. Other factors include death of a parent, remarriage, and engaging in criminal activity. Virginia circuit and juvenile and domestic relations courts have jurisdiction over these proceedings.

Parental Conduct

In addition to finding a parent unfit because of substance abuse or abuse or neglect towards a child, the courts also consider the conduct of both parents during the course of the marriage, and the impact of parental behavior on the child.

In Virginia, a family court may prevent a parent from obtaining custody or seeking custody if:

• he or she was convicted of murder, voluntary manslaughter, or a felony attempt;
• felony assault resulting in serious bodily injury or harm, if the victim was a child of the parent or a child with whom the parent lived with at the time; or
• felony sexual assault, if the victim was a child of the parent or a child with whom the parent lived with at the time.

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prev | next § 20-124.2. Court-ordered custody and visitation arrangements. A. In any case in which custody or visitation of minor children is at issue, whether in a circuit or district court, the court shall provide prompt adjudication, upon due consideration of all the facts, of custody and visitation arrangements, including support and maintenance for the children, prior to other considerations arising in the matter. The court may enter an order pending the suit as provided in § 20-103. The procedures for determining custody and visitation arrangements shall insofar as practical, and consistent with the ends of justice, preserve the dignity and resources of family members. Mediation shall be used as an alternative to litigation where appropriate. When mediation is used in custody and visitation matters, the goals may include development of a proposal addressing the child’s residential schedule and care arrangements, and how disputes between the parents will be handled in the future. B. In determining custody, the court shall give primary consideration to the best interests of the child. The court shall assure minor children of frequent and continuing contact with both parents, when appropriate, and encourage parents to share in the responsibilities of rearing their children. As between the parents, there shall be no presumption or inference of law in favor of either. The court shall give due regard to the primacy of the parent-child relationship but may upon a showing by clear and convincing evidence that the best interest of the child would be served thereby award custody or visitation to any other person with a legitimate interest. The court may award joint custody or sole custody. C. The court may order that support be paid for any child of the parties. The court shall also order that support will continue to be paid for any child over the age of 18 who is (i) a full-time high school student, (ii) not self-supporting, and (iii) living in the home of the party seeking or receiving child support until such child reaches the age of 19 or graduates from high school, whichever first occurs. The court may also order the continuation of support for any child over the age of 18 who is (i) severely and permanently mentally or physically disabled, (ii) unable to live independently and support himself, and (iii) resides in the home of the parent seeking or receiving child support. In addition, the court may confirm a stipulation or agreement of the parties which extends a support obligation beyond when it would otherwise terminate as provided by law. The court shall have no authority to decree support of children payable by the estate of a deceased party. The court may make such further decree as it shall deem expedient concerning support of the minor children, including an order that either party or both parties provide health care coverage or cash medical support, or both. D. In any case in which custody or visitation of minor children is at issue, whether in a circuit or district court, the court may order an independent mental health or psychological evaluation to assist the court in its determination of the best interests of the child. The court may enter such order as it deems appropriate for the payment of the costs of the evaluation by the parties. E. The court shall have the continuing authority and jurisdiction to make any additional orders necessary to effectuate and enforce any order entered pursuant to this section or § 20-103 including the authority to punish as contempt of court any willful failure of a party to comply with the provisions of the order. A parent or other person having legal custody of a child may petition the court to enjoin and the court may enter an order to enjoin a parent of the child from filing a petition relating to custody and visitation of that child for any period of time up to 10 years if doing so is in the best interests of the child and such parent has been convicted of an offense under the laws of the Commonwealth or a substantially similar law of another state, the United States, or any foreign jurisdiction which constitutes (i) murder or voluntary manslaughter, or a felony attempt, conspiracy or solicitation to commit any such offense, if the victim of the offense was a child of the parent, a child with whom the parent resided at the time the offense occurred, or the other parent of the child, or (ii) felony assault resulting in serious bodily injury, felony bodily wounding resulting in serious bodily injury, or felony sexual assault, if the victim of the offense was a child of the parent or a child with whom the parent resided at the time of the offense. When such a petition to enjoin the filing of a petition for custody and visitation is filed, the court shall appoint a guardian ad litem for the child pursuant to § 16.1-266. (1994, c. 769; 1996, cc. 767, 879, 884; 1999, c. 574; 2003, c. 520; 2006, c. 665; 2009, c. 713.) prev | next | new search | table of contents | home

Spreading the Truth. Biochemistry:

Rumors must be dispelled and it is time to set a few of the records straight. It’s not just one, it is an entire business of deceit practiced by the Mayos. Twists of truth and one sided agendas paramount to BOLD face lies. It’s all in the intended perception, first ripen the audience by laying the foundation and continue to add your own versions and particular slants until the story resembles the theatrical show case which will impact your audience most . 

If the said audience are your children. It’s pretty easy to say they will listen and be influenced pretty easily. It’s a constant grinding, programming them into the forms chosen to create.

If the intention is to provoke fear, mistrust, and shame. What would be the standard methods used? Would they be much different than bullying? Would you prey on their weaknesses like a wounded animal to take the revenge you seek? My story will expose exploits no less revolting than how Scott Peterson dumped his wife Lacys pregnant body off the side of his boat, disposing of her and her unborn child.  Sick and twisted stories like hers make me realize I am lucky to have survived this encounter with the Mayo family. Please pay attention, you will see the truth for yourself.

Is hurting the children and perverting their perception justified? If it is a useful tool why not use it? Is it utilitarian, to gain the best “perceived” results. How difficult is to mislead children? Taking advantage of young children by presenting situations from a twisted perspective. Let’s look more closely and examine the facts.

Your Mother “makes bad choices”,  “she is crazy” with a spin of the finger around your ear. She doesn’t “follow the rules”. She is not good enough, blah, blah, blah. You know where this going? Yes, back to discuss the politics of a Father (previously dead beat Dad, drunk & reported more than a regular drinker).  Do you need to know he is a health care professional? This may change your perception of trust with health care professionals entirely.

Must I digress, do you want the entire story? How much would be of particular interest? It is rather comical. How one question asked to Ryan Mayo instantly, left me repulsed by his cold nature. In ensuing years I should have held on to for the repulsion he left with his biting comment. I avoided him for several semesters in class and years following the end of Biochemistry. Still, how did I end up marrying his brother and having two children with him. This is my truth and I will share every single nitty gritty detail for I will leave nothing out. The truth does not need to be sifted through multiple layers with my version. You may source check references and talk to the others who know our story first hand. I will leave a long list of contacts for character references of both Greg Mayo and myself. I may not have all the degrees behind my name, but its amazing how money can buy your way out of almost anything. I have worked so hard for my education and what I have earned took a lot of hard work and energy. I never took the chances affluent boys privilege’s can indulge themselves with…  that’s really the story here. Par for the course- These types have no limits. Do not interfere with their endless display of shameless self promotion.

So, it went. I studied and worked and Ryan was not even a consideration one way or another. Then one summer day, on the VCU campus in front of the libraryhe approached me from out of the blue and asked how I was doing? It seemed a rather odd moment as I avoided him rather easily without even trying ever since he abused me with his remark. He passed his number to me on a little thin strip of cream colored sturdy paper, a handy tab with a fancy cursive font: Ryan Mayo with his number on it. The thoughts In my head were distinct, as I recalled his horrible disposition with me 2 semesters past, and even though we shared polite conversation, my absolutely firm conclusion was thanks for the number that your Mother so well polished presented for you to distribute to strangers, but I am never going to call you, EVER. Period. It was a summer semester, and I had a full agenda. I never even considered using the number on the thin strip of paper with name and number, however it remained amongst my belongings. And every once in a while I would come across it and curse the day he was so unnecessarily harsh? It was too bad he was mean spirited being my underlying thoughts.

So, literally several years later, I ran into Ryan again. He was studying at the MCV medical library and I wanted to sneak past him, I  was rather hoping to make a quick get away. I tried to leave with out being noticed by him. I was almost through the doors, when he caught up to me. Oh “hey, how are you”. I pretended not to notice him. I did not want a confrontation about never calling, however he had cornered me. I really didn’t know why he would want to suddenly be interested in conversing with me. We were not friends, and he was always way out of my league, but he was trying to talk to me again. I was polite, and he told me about dental school etc. I really did not care, not one iota, I was over on business and retrieving primary research articles at the library.

Ryan mentioned a point of interest, Michael was going to be his room mate. Hmmm. Michael always such a character and always chatting about his exploits. I knew Michael was tolerable but Ryan, he just thought he was better, knew better, and his attitudes so completely different from mine. I even pointed out a few girls I thought he should date, more like him. Preppy, and cheerleaderish, the stereotypical perfectly dressed and made up girl. Not me.

I was not that type. I tried to look presentable. Clean, long hair. sometimes make up. But I had a very simple wardrobe. I found things I could afford and really didn’t go far beyond the absolute basics, simple skirts and a tea shirt or a button down from banana republic. Jeans and white top. My attire was fairly simple. It’s more important for people to like me for who I am, and on occasion dress to impress but it is not the norm. I will say that I have been known to turn heads when I try, but that’s not how I relate to others.

 

 

 

MND. Mom Next Door

I am the Mom next door.
I think outside the box. I’m fashionable at times, but because I like something. Not to follow the pack. I’ve scorched a path all my own. Others may fear to tread in this little patch of dirt. Did you ever wonder if something could be done but weren’t sure how to do it? Well, if at first you don’t succeed… Try, try, again. This is my basic philosophy. In a time of inauthentic personas, well this will be refreshing to consider. No sugar coating. Plain & simple human comedy is promised. Truth is so much more illuminating and comedic. Let’s do this blog!! I’ve made several, somewhat lame attempts before but my commitment will be a one hour/day. A true commitment to this blog.MND
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Every mom can relate to me. Teen mom. Single mom. Unplanned pregnancy Mom. Married to an accomplished & tyrannical man, and how about this…… Married to a man that embarrasses due to his “habits”. Have you ever felt like Mrs. Jackass?? Yeah, my least favorite unofficial title. Self imposed but undeniably the most wretched experience. Faking it could not have been more obvious. Fake? Nope- it’s not my style! These are my favorite stories.

However, telling you the honest to God truth. Marriage was not my cup of tea, and once you get to know me you will understand my general opposition to a permanent tethering to another person? It’s a ludicrous idea. It wasn’t their fault only. Yes, multiple husbands. Well multiple children- so

Christies Party!

Cozy Christie, snuggling on the couch

 My name is Sherrie Hagan-Mayo, Grant is my amazing & handsome 11 year old son, & Christie is my sweet and lovely 8 year old daughter! We have been looking for a way to get some help! Our problem is we have been on the “outs” with G&C’s father and his entire family. It’s a complicated story,  I am our story with anyone who thinks, in the christian spirit, they can help us in the best interest of our adorable children! I need to convince, their Dad our children need me, all kids need their Mom and Dad! It seems obvious to most, but he doesn’t want me to spend time with our children, and he has resources to keep taking me back to court. I do not have thousands of dollars to spend (again) in the Loudoun Courts. Our children have been stuck in the middle of a big mess, and their “best interests” have not been served.

*Please sign your name to the petition if you agree, kids need both parents, Mom and Dad. Let’s convince their dear old Dad, as I lovingly refer to mine that kids need two happy homes! Kids need both their Mom and Dad. Spread the word! We are setting up a web site soon to promote story telling.

Sweet Dreams Love.com is the web site I am dedicating to my children, where they are welcome to hear my stories and prayers for them anytime! My kids will get a live testimony of my love for them, personally from me! Anyone who wants to listen to the stories I read my children are welcome. Additionally, any new story suggestions are welcome! We hope to hear from you soon! Grant, Christie, and Sherrie (the Mom).

Grant, Christie, Mom with Lucky on Mothers Day

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Subject: Hello

Hi everyone. After speaking with Christine’s father, I have found out
that Christine’s party that was planned this weekend is cancelled this
weekend. I know some of the children are saying some different things
so I wanted to clear up any confusion there may be.

Thanks,
Caroline Reynolds